Rodolfo – Pain in his Stomach
August 31st, 2010
Seeing Rodolfo today after not seeing him for 2 years was incredible but bittersweet because he was in oncology again. He is back for studies because his stomach has been bothering him for the past 3 weeks. For now, we don’t even know what is going on until his test results come back. That didn’t stop us from tapping. I immediately got him a Tappy. Yes, he still taps at home using his Tappy.
We began with the fact that he had been feeling pain, that something was bothering him. When I asked him to check if he could identify what he said no. I even asked if anything had happened at home or school that had bothered him in the last month. He couldn’t think of anything. This is what happens at times. One doesn’t see or recognize what has happened that has an emotional affect.
I felt I needed to ask about his mom and his siblings. He told me there is a new baby just born last month. He has a new sister. This is a major change. We tapped about the changes that arrived in the house with the coming of his little sister.
Even tho I have a new baby sister, I’m a great young man.
Even tho she is going to get so much attention that I won’t get much anymore, I’m a great guy.
Even tho she is going to take up so much of my mom’s time that there won’t be much for me anymore, I don’t have to get sick again. I can stay healthy.
I won’t have all of my mom’s attention anymore.
She’ll be so busy with the baby.
She already is.
I see how much time the baby takes.
I don’t have to let this bother me.
I know I’m not the baby of the family anymore.
I’m still special.
I don’t have to be worried or bothered by the changes.
It is time for me to be a young man not the baby anymore.
I had the position of being the baby of the family for 14 years.
Now that position changed to 3rd child.
It is quite a change.
I’m still special just because I’m me.
Today we took a look at some of the emotional issues going on at home that could have an affect on his health. A new baby is a big shift for a sensitive young man especially after so many years of being the baby of the family to now have to change that role. Now we can continue to look if on some level over the months of the pregnancy he had already felt pushed aside or was feeling he wouldn’t get the attention he had always gotten as the baby of the family.
When we have the diagnosis then we can use that information to look deeper into the root causes of what has transpired.
For now, he is content to feel better, to tap again, to tap with me again so that he can get better.
Rodolfo
